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12-12-2007 15:28 hour
Kathy Tony, Kristin,Scott and Toni Hartman ( oreland ) kah59 <at> aol <dot> com
Donna, John, Kara, and Chris,

We just got back from Springfield High School where a group of great kids are there to remember your son and brother. One year later it still makes me cry. We just want you all to know that our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Love, Kathy Tony and Family.
12-12-2007 15:10 hour
Alex Clinefelter ( Oreland , USA ) a_clinefelter <at> yahoo <dot> com
I just wanted you all to know that my family and I have been thinking of you all day long. We just wanted to let you know how much you are in our hearts and how much we miss Shane. I hope these messages help you through the day.

Love,
Alex, Lynn, Thom, Drew, and Curt
12-12-2007 14:19 hour
Allie Moreland ( Springfield Township , USA ) alliemoreland91 <at> gmail <dot> com
Dear Halligan Family,

My family and I are thinking of you on this 1 year anniversary. We miss Shane always and today is just another reminder of how much we miss him and love him. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Love,
Allie Moreland
12-12-2007 12:08 hour
Victoria Holt ( Oreland ) tholt21 <at> hotmail <dot> com
Today was a hard day for all of us at Springfield, remembering what happened only one year ago. Walking the way Shane walked the same time he did a year ago was so hard for me, I never knew him but as a now ninth grader, former eighth grader I had a hard time dealing with everything. I just wanted to say even if I didn't know Shane I think of him everyday and how different life would have been if he was still with us. We all miss Shane so much.

Victoria Holt
12-12-2007 10:30 hour
Brian McGovern ( Oreland, PA , USA ) megnmatt <at> aol <dot> com
Donna, John, Chris & Kara,

On this 1st anniversary of Shane's passing, we wanted to let you know that we are thinking of you and are praying for you and Shane.

Please know that Oreland is a better place due to Shane's kindness and good deeds and those of the Halligan family.

Brian, Mariellen, Matthew and Meghan McGovern
12-12-2007 08:01 hour
Theresa Krauth ( Oreland , USA ) tkrauth <at> ymcglaw <dot> com
Dear Donna, John, Kara and Chris:
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and the Halligan family today. God bless you through today and everyday.

Theresa, Bill and J.C.
12-12-2007 08:00 hour
Lindsey
Just wanted to let you know that you are in my prayers and God Bless You!
12-12-2007 04:57 hour
nancy schaeffer ( glenside , usa ) nschaeffer <at> msn <dot> com
Dear Donna, John, Kara and Chris, My thoughts and prayers are with you. I loved Shane and know that today he will help you find peace.
Nancy
12-11-2007 21:14 hour
Sean Gallagher ( Lansdale , USA ) sw_gallagher <at> verizon <dot> net
Homepage: myspace.com/ireland_represent
I did not know Shane, but the tragedy definitely sent a shock wave all over the remaining county's and towns around Springfield. Everyone felt the pain.

I recently lost my uncle to suicide and I now, unfortunately, know the feeling your entire family must have felt on that day.

I am here to say that even though I did not know Shane, your family will be in my thoughts and prayers tomorrow and throughout the rest of the week. I have a few friends who were friends with him and I am helping them through this difficult time.

Again, My condolences go out to your entire family. I am truly sorry for your loss.
12-11-2007 15:55 hour
Nicole Samuel ( Honey Brook, PA )
I have had Shane on my mind more and more lately. I have been directing a show at my new school. There is this character that everytime I have play practice I think that Shane would have been brilliant in it. Being away from Springfield, especially the theatre crew, and especially during this time is so hard for me. Donna, you are in my thoughts constantly and I dont want you to forget that. My thoughts will be on Shane tomorrow, and as always, I will think of him and smile.
12-11-2007 13:22 hour
christina malizia ( santa monica , usa ) christinamalizia <at> hotmail <dot> com
Hey guys...I miss you so much!! I wish I could be there for you this week...please know that you are in my thoughts. Thank you for the support that you have given me. I love you guys so much!
12-10-2007 12:11 hour
Lindsey ( Springfield , USA )
Almost 1 year ago today we lost a classmate that was dear to us all. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
12-09-2007 11:18 hour
Matthew McGovern ( Oreland ) mcgovern09 <at> gmail <dot> com
John, Donna, Kara, & Chris,

As the 12th fast approaches, Shane is on my mind more and more. I still can't believe he is gone. It will be a tough holiday season for both of our families. We are always there for you guys, so don't hesitate to call. You and Shane are always in my prayers. God Bless You.

Always,
Matt McGovern
12-05-2007 22:02 hour
Bunny Doyle ( oreland , usa ) bunnydoyle <at> msn <dot> com
Dear Donna, John, Kara & Chris,
As the 12th approaches and tragic memories, begin to out way the happy ones I wanted each of you to know how proud my family is of your strength and courage, & of the FAITH that you have in EACH OTHER, God, your family, and in your friends. This is truly what will sustain you, guide you and keep you here with us Donna...I love you. your friend always. Bunn
11-30-2007 20:17 hour
Alicia Tomkowich ( Drexel Hill, PA )
I only met Shane a few times at family parties and stuff but I can still remember conversations I have had with him. I can't help but regret not getting to know him better from all of the wonderful stories I am hearing about him. Me and my mom were talking about it a few days ago and we can't believe it has been almost a year. Like most other people have said, this is a really great site
11-29-2007 06:46 hour
Laura Santangelo ( Flourtown , USA ) seamlessinteriors <at> msn <dot> com
Dear John,
Thank you, for the time, support and encouragment you've given Sal as he completes his Eagle. Missing Shane as he does, we know spending time with you keeps Shane close. Sal told us that he feels Shane with him all the time. At every fire call and each new course he takes, his accomplishments are Shane's as well. I know the next few weeks will be especially difficult for your family, I just want you all to know that the thoughts and prayers of our family are with you alway's.
Thank you again.
Laura and Joe Santangelo
11-26-2007 09:13 hour
Donna dmmaliz <at> comcast <dot> net
Hello everyone, just want you to know we continue to want to hear about kids in need. We will attempt to help all we can. Just recently we provided a single mom with gift cards so that she could do some shopping for her 2 children.
11-21-2007 19:00 hour
Carol Walczak ( Eden, NSW , Australia ) carolwalczak <at> hotmail <dot> com
Homepage: carolwalczak.spaces.live.com
My son Daniel took his life on 17 January 2007. He was 17, a beautiful person. Everyone was shocked. He was liked and loved and respected by most who knew him.

After he died, I wrote a book called "Choose to Live!". I see it as a suicide prevention resource. The link is http://www.lulu.com/content/1086908, where you can see a preview if you like.

My heart goes out to everyone who has been through this, in whichever aspect of the experience they may be.
11-09-2007 09:51 hour
Joan ( usa )
Just want to touch base with you all.Donna,Kara thanks for your help during my rough time.Loosing my brother the same way is so unbelievable!WHY??We well never know.Almost 1 month for me and almost 1 year for you.I just heard an angel song yesterday,the words fit our losses exactly.I believe that song was sent to me to help me.What do we do now.We do GO ON FOR THE FAMILY,FRIENDS AND MOST IMPORTANT OUR CHILDREN THAT IS WHY WE GO ON AND BE HAPPY.I am getting counseling just because I know I need it.You get frozen in time some days and some days your are fine.I believe GOOD comes out of everything that is tragic.I believe that new life is born every day and that replaces those we loose. Your 1 year Anniversay is so dear to my heart. I will be with you all just remembering. I will always pray for your strength to be on going. Shane really is not gone, he is just resting. Love you all so much. Joan
11-03-2007 11:52 hour
LInda Szymkowski ( Morrisville, PA , USA ) babyfaceholly <at> aol <dot> com
Dear Donna and John,
I want to thank you for coming into my daughters life just as the Holidays roll around. I was dreading trying to come up with a way to tell her that I could't afford her special Doll, but she is such a great kid I didn't want to disappoint her. And you and you husband came to my rescue. Your son's special website is beautiful and the work you do is inspiring. I hope to someday be able to help someone like you did for me, in your son Shane's name. I thank you again for your act of kindness, it won't be forgotten. God Bless you and your family and have a Wonderful Holiday. Shane is in my prayers and thoughts.
Linda M. Szymkowski and daughter Holly
10-25-2007 20:44 hour
kristi dalske ( blue bell , usa ) cdalske1 <at> comcast <dot> net
I feel very blessed to have Donna as a friend now. even though we both would rather it be the way it used to be. I am so grateful to hear about Shane and what a great kid and son and brother he is. it was a pleasure having lunch with Kara also. you are awesome and so fun. I know Shane and Chris are together and watching us. Thanks for the memories of Chris you shared with me. I can definitely feel Shanes kindness through you guys. Kristi
10-12-2007 17:06 hour
Mommom deetoto <at> comcast <dot> net
It's ten months today and Shane is closer in my heart and thoughts than he has ever been. God bless our whole family for staying so close and supporting each other during this time of sorrow. It is from each other that we have gotten the strength to go on, and I am sure that Shane is proud of all of us. God bless you, John, Donna, Kara and Chris. We love you. Mom
09-29-2007 18:15 hour
Linda Engelbert ( Doylestown )
I had asked my neighbors where they had purchased the antique milk can sitting on their front porch since I was hoping to get one for my porch. To my delightful surprise, my neighbors found one at a flea market today and then painted it to match my home’s shutters and so graciously gave it to me!
Every time I come home, I will think how blessed I am to know Shane and to have such wonderful neighbors. (who are part of my small circle of six friends which is about five thousand short of the number of Donna’s friends but then again I intend to add one more each passing year!)
The act of kindness was dedicated to the life and memory of our beloved Shane.
Love you guys,
Linda
09-26-2007 10:35 hour
Donna
I inquired as to how the American Flag at Applebees was hung in Shane's memory and honor. I was informed that the restaurant was considering hanging the American Flag from the second story. There was some question as to how difficult it would be to do so. A gentlemen approached the manager, offered to help hang the flag and that this "Act of Kindness" was in memory of Shane. The restaurant thanked this gentlemen and told him that they too would pass on this "act of kindness" by dedicating the flag to our Shane. What a perfectly wonderful chain of events.
Thank You,
John and Donna
09-26-2007 08:42 hour
Donna
We were made aware of a high school freshman that was not able to afford his team jacket. Because of you we were able to puchase that for him. Please continue to keep us in mind when you hear of a child in need.
John and Donna Halligan
09-26-2007 08:30 hour
Christy group <dot> sales <at> therosegroup <dot> com
Homepage: rosegroupdining.com\15thstreet
The American Flag hangs in the front window of Applebee's on 15th street philadelphia in memory and dedication of Shane!
09-15-2007 18:16 hour
Kristi Dalske ( blue bell , USA ) cdalske1 <at> comcast <dot> net
Donna, I am so happy we have met and can support each other with our monthly lunches. It is a pleasure to hear about Shane and what a great kid he was and all the wonderful donations you guys are doing. That is what keeps us going is keeping our kids memories alive. I am blessed to know you now and even though it has been 6 years since Chris' death I cherish our time together so we can talk about our kids. Thank you. Kristi Dalske
09-10-2007 18:39 hour
Meg Dowling megdowling4 <at> yahoo <dot> com
Last week I started my senior year at Springfield Twp High School. I, along with the rest of my class, miss Shane very much. It will be a sweet sorrow on graduation day because ever since kindergarten I alway imagined Shane to be there with us. God bless the Halligan family you have done so much for our community and you are still helping others. I love you all, and I admire you.

09-09-2007 20:14 hour
Lou Maiden
miss you shane
09-08-2007 04:57 hour
Ed Abel manager <at> springfieldfd <dot> com
Homepage: springfieldfd.com
Mr. & Mrs. Halligan:
Thank you for your generous contribution to the Brees/Frost Foundation, it is very much appreciated.
Dan Brees is currenty recovering at home and I will make sure he gets a card. Chase Frost is still in the Burn Center, So I will give the card to his parents to hold for him until he gets out of the hospital.
Thank you again. Ed Abel, The Brees/Frost Foundation
09-07-2007 16:03 hour
Nick Malizia Jr. ( ambler )
Uncle John, Aunt Donna, Chris and Kara- I've visited this amazing website dozens of times, however this time I want to let you and everyone else know how amazing our family is and how one of a kind we are. The way all of us have pulled together is sensational and it's great to know how much support exists. Shane was truely an inspirational young man to so many and will continue to do so. From the "shane" wristband that never leaves my side to his admiration for life, will always remind me that life isn't so hard after all. So keep your heads up and know how proud he is of you guys for the hard work your doing. With love-your nephew and cousin- Nick Jr.
09-05-2007 12:30 hour
Donna
Because of your generosity, we have made a donation to the two young firefighters Dan Brees and Chase Frost who were critically injured fighting a fire. They are from the Parkside Fire Company. Shane would have been so proud of these young men.
Donna and John Halligan
08-27-2007 18:51 hour
Linda Engelbert
Although we may not always understand God’s bigger picture, there are times where it is just strikingly evident. For it was Donna’s kindness that was meant to save a stranger’s life.
It truly is an unbelievable, extraordinary event that was meant to be. No doubt, it was Shane’s hand that guided and inspired Donna to be in the right place at the right moment just to help someone in need (after all why would anyone want to be early for work?)

Truly an inspiring story and may the angels guide us all,

Love,
Linda
08-21-2007 07:04 hour
Amy
Donna, you truly are an amazing person. Your strength amazes me, as does your generosity. Thanks for all you do!
08-20-2007 16:11 hour
Donna
I just wanted to share a pretty amazing story with all of you. This morning I went to work about an hour earlier then usual. I got out of the car to find a woman standing in the lot. She needed a cane to get around, she was only in her late forties or so. She asked if I knew where the "AA" meeting was held. I told her that I thought she was in the wrong place but that I remember that people met upstairs at a local restaurant. I offered to drive her to the restuarant (she had taken a bus)
I took her over and we began to see others arrive, I asked if this was the meeting place...it was...she thanked me and went in. When I out to my car at lunch time, there was a note in my windshield...It said "Thank You for your help, you helped save my life" I felt very strong that Shane had played a part in this encounter. Thank you Shane, Love Mom
08-16-2007 08:40 hour
Nicole ( Morgantown )
Dear Donna,
I still thank you from the bottom of my heart for your kindness to me. Shane is always on my mind, as are you and your family. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
08-14-2007 12:22 hour
Joan hgtvjoan <at> yahoo <dot> com
Hello Halligan Family,
Just a short note to say you are all in our prayers and hearts on a daily basis. As the summer ends and fall begins, Shane is with you. I keep this site close to me to remind me how precious your family is to our family. We are always here to help you!
08-03-2007 19:36 hour
Wendy
Friendship can offer the air by which we breath...thanks for giving me air for so many years.

Shane lives on in our hearts.

Wendy
07-29-2007 21:09 hour
Alyssa K melm6 <at> optonline <dot> net
To the Halligan Family,
I did not know Shane at all so I do feel like I might be intruding but I cant tell you how much this website and others will help people in the future. I didnt even know Shane and I still feel as if a part of me misses him. His story has really inspired me and he sounds like a simply outstanding person.
07-12-2007 18:22 hour
tayler doyle ( flourtown , pennsylvania )
I miss shane alot and he was a great kid. he will always be in our minds, hearts, and memmories. Its not that hes gone hes still here in spirit. I know i want my kids to know bout shane but not of wat he did but who he was. This quote inspired me to want to go inot the Armed forces "Its not how the person died that made them a hero, its how he lived" that quote makes me thnk of shane all the time and it inspires me. i hate the fact that he thaught this was his only choice i wish he came to someone. But i know that he wouldnt hurt anyone in that skewl. I here people say that shane was a monster and people thuaght he was gonna shoot everybody but i knew he wasnt and so did everybody else Shanes i just want u to kno that people loved ur son very much and i never thuaght he was a monster. Its hard not to see shane looking back at me. I knew if he were here he would have done great things and he would have been a great husband and father and a friend and a son.
To the Halligan Family
07-05-2007 15:40 hour
Andrea Dougherty
Dear Mrs. Halligan,
Im not sure if you remember me, but as a child shane and i were good friends and went to enfield together. I just came across this website and following the fourth of july decided to pay my respects to you as well as your family. I had you guys in mind yesterday I know it must have been a difficult day, but i said a prayer for you all.
07-04-2007 13:20 hour
Anne
watching the parade today and memorial day made me relly upset..because shane was always in them. i usually do as ne other kid my age would and sit there as the boy scouts and the vets go bye. this time i felt that i had to get up and applaud for them, because of shane and how he would pull me aside after the parade n say hey why didnt you clap for us..
just wanted everyone to know that shane is still in our hearts and minds everyday.
i miss him so much.
07-03-2007 20:07 hour
The Doyle's bunnydoyle <at> msn <dot> com
Dear Donna & Johnny,
As tomorrow approachs and memories of parades gone by flood your hearts, minds and souls, we just wanted you to know that as we watch the parade we will be remembering that proud smiling young man, who was beside himself to be standing in that helicopter or tank! We will remember along with your family & friends how honored we are to have known and LOVED Shanney. As always we are with you in prayer and love, Bunny, Fran, Shan, & Bren
06-12-2007 20:07 hour
Bunny Doyle ( usa ) bunnydoyle <at> msn <dot> com
Dear Donna Bonna...
A few years ago I had a hole in my heart, the hole was patched, & the physical seal remains, but 6 months ago today, the hole came back, it is there because I miss Shaney, it's there because I feel so broken hearted for you my dearest friend. It is also there for Johnny, Kara & chris, because there is nothing I can do for them to help ease their pain,I pray for each of you everyday. I need you to know that I, along with Fran, Shan & Bren, are here for you always. We love you. We are so proud of you and your family. This web site honors not only his memory but you strength as well.
Love me
06-11-2007 15:13 hour
matt mcdowell ( USA ) mattymcd17 <at> yahoo <dot> com
6 months is tomorrow, it seems like just a couple weeks ago, i wish i could see you one more time


i love and miss you so much
fly high shane
06-11-2007 14:48 hour
lauren ( alabama ) soccerlova93 <at> aol <dot> com
i dont no you but i herd your story, you were an amazing kid and nothing could have changed that! i no that when you grow up you would have been great doing what you do!
06-08-2007 11:47 hour
Joseph Malizia, Jr. ( FOB Hammer , Iraq ) joejlitz <at> hotmail <dot> com
Hey,
Thanks for sending me an email and a link to this site. I think this is great what you are doing. I read Shane's bio about how he loved the military and I can only hope that I am doin everything that he expects out of an American soldier and I hope he would be proud of me. I would have loved to show him what soldiering is all about. God bless him and God bless you. Love,
Joe
06-08-2007 09:23 hour
Teresa Mignogno ( abington , US ) tt2962 <at> hotmail <dot> com
Homepage: myspace.com
Dear Karia chris aunt Donna and uncle Jhon. I just want to let you know how much i love you all. I think of shane every day and i pray for him everynight when i go to sleep. the thing was soo funny what Genna said about shane. i starting laughing when i saw that. i could just see him now chaceing after the golf cart.. hahahaha. I remember that one time down the shore when he was running around the table singing rich girl and we were putting it on a video tape. then I remember we where all playing connect 4 and we where only playing around but we where fighting over us being cuzz's cause we didn't know if we where or not. hahaah that was the funnyst thing ever. every time i here that song rich girl it always makes me think about him running around he table singing it. ok well i have to go now. REST IN PEACE SHANEYBOY... I LOVE YOU SOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH.
06-07-2007 12:14 hour
Donna Halligan
A dontation from Shane's Kindness was made to "For Jake's Sake" to assist a child and his family. Our community pulled together a fundraiser to help Jake's family purchase a special needs van. Way to go everyone. Hope to post again soon.
Donna
05-25-2007 17:00 hour
Lillian Bierwirth ( Spring City , United States )
Dear Donna and John,
Sitting here watching "Finding Neverland," kind of brings Shane to mind as a boy who will always be young and in everyones hearts and thoughts. You managed to make my heart lighter due to your kindness to my granddaughter. You've made her life easier and happier, for the gift you gave her through Shane's Helping Hands. I cannot begin to state the gratitude I feel towards your family. Your son is in my heart and life forever and I will extend a helping hand in his name for as long as i may. As I know he would, as my granddaughter speaks of him and how everyone has loving and fun thoughts of him, brings smiles to your face.
Your in my thoughts and prayers always, Lillian Bierwirth (Your mothers friend from Kohl's)

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