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We hope this forum will serve as a valuable clearinghouse for suicide prevention information. Please feel free post messages about suicide prevention resources you have discovered, or simply share stories of healing and recovery. These are the stories we need to hear. We welcome voices from throughout the community.

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03-08-2007 07:38 hour
Amanda Thornton ( Oreland PA , US ) presidentpink <at> yahoo <dot> com
Thank you so much for all that you have done for the community and all your effort in setting up this web site. I was a friend of Shane's and cried my heart out when it happened. I think of the times that I spent time with him at Meryland and smile. Thank you again and I wish you luck in the future.
03-07-2007 12:58 hour
Shane Witman switman <at> fredbeans <dot> com
I just wanted to say how much I look up to the Halligan’s.
I have had the privilege to be a part of the family for almost four years now.
As a family you have gone through such tremendous adversity and yet you still find the time to be there for others. I admire your strength through the challenging times you have recently faced. If there were a book on how to be a great family the title would be…”The Halligan’s. ” John, Donna, Kara and Chris you truly are the epitome of a good family.

Love Shane Witman
03-07-2007 12:15 hour
Marge(Andersen)Curran mcurran <at> wcupa <dot> edu
Dear Donna & John, Shane's website was forwarded to me from my nephew (Mike Taylor). I am in awe of both of you and the courage and strength you show. Sharing Shane's life with others is beautiful. He was truly an inspiration to everyone who knew him. My heart aches for you and can't imagine how you can go on. This is amazing! Although it's been some time since our paths have crossed, please know that I am thinking and praying for you and your family. I will share this wonderful site with many. Thank you for sharing Shane's memories. God Bless You
03-06-2007 18:24 hour
Shannon Agnew ( Springfield , USA ) broadwaybaby118 <at> gmail <dot> com
This website is a true tribute to the magic that Shane shared with us. When I look at pictures of "Around the world and back again" and even the picture of the thespians on the wall of Frienly's, I think about him, the joy which he gave to others, and the passion with which he lived. Thank you for this, and God bless. You are truly an amazing family!
03-06-2007 17:10 hour
Nick McDowell ( Lansdale ) Ronns8016 <at> aim <dot> com
I just want to say how amazing this website is. The web site really is a great tribute to shane and his life.

I am constantly thinking of all the great memories of shan(especially the story that Genna said).
03-06-2007 15:17 hour
Maggie ( USA )
Shane really was a great kid. Funny, i didn't know him very well, just kind of saw him here and there, but the one memory that is clear as day to me is when Shane sang his song at the Godspell preformace. Gave me chills. He really was a great boy.
03-05-2007 12:51 hour
Nick Malizia ( Montgomery ) NMalizia <at> Verizon <dot> net
Dear Donna and John another first class job, the web site is truley fitting to a great young man.I wanted to share with you a news story I heard today. A young man had been killed in tradegy yesterday . The dad spoke of the incident while refering to his family he Said" I have three children and one of them is in heaven " that's is what we believe when we think of your family. luv Nick and lisa
03-05-2007 09:54 hour
Tom Casey tomcasgolf <at> aol <dot> com
Dear John,Donna,Kara and Chris,
Well, you guys did it again you left me speechless! What a beautiful web site!Has I go through the web site I find my eyes tearing and a smile on my face at the same time. I think of the Halligan and Malizia families everyday!Happy memories help us deal with loved ones that have passed, young,old. I know every Easter Sunday, I will have my own special memory of Shane and his special way to use his neck tie. SMILE!!
Love to the Halligan and Malizia Families!
Tom Casey
03-05-2007 09:50 hour
Greg and Diane Alexander ( Flourtown, PA , USA ) Alex1908 <at> comcast <dot> net
Dear Donna, John, Kara & Chris:
This website is such a wonderful expression that reflects the inspiring human beings that you are. Shane's Memorial Fund will give such hope and opportunites to those less fortunate and we were proud to contribute to it. You are always in our thoughts, prayers and hearts. Greg and Diane
P.S. Brandon says a special hello to his, "Donn-aaa."
03-05-2007 07:39 hour
Tommy & Carol Wilson ( Oreland , USA ) wilson1179 <at> comcast <dot> net
Dear Kara -What a wonderful thing you are doing in Shane's memory. We're so proud of you and your family - you all are very inspiring. You are a wonderful friend to Jamie and we love having you in our lives (As you know, we ran out of Two Buck Chuck and are getting really low on stamps, but will re-stock on both soon along with a couple of new front door keys) Thank you so much for watching Chewi and Caya last weekend when we needed to go to Virginia to be with our family for the memorial to our nephew. We know that you and your family are feeling our pain with us - as it's so close to your own, but you were still willing to give your time to help. AMAZING!!!!! (Sorry about the Chewster's snoring) We love you and will pass on "Acts of Kindness" in Shane's memory. What a wonderful tribute to your brother. Thanks again for being a wonderful friend and terrific person. Love you. T & C
03-04-2007 16:23 hour
Deb Quaco ( Wyndmoor ) dquaco8822 <at> verizon <dot> net
Dear John, Donna, Kara and Chris,
Genna was at our house today and showed this amazing website to us. it is such a wonderful tribute to the love you all had with Shane. I think of you so often, and I keep you in my prayers. I will be ordering your kindness cards; I love that you have found such a powerful way to honor Shane's memory. God bless you all!
03-04-2007 11:17 hour
Joan Parsons ( Oreland , USA ) hgtvjoan <at> yahoo <dot> com
This is a wondful tribute to your son's memory and accomplishments. We support you always and love you. As a mother, too I cannot imagine what you are going through now and in the future. But I hope everyday gets easier as your memories will get more vivid. Shane is blessed to have you. Love to the whole Halligan Family. Joan
03-04-2007 09:45 hour
Meg Dowling ( Glenside )
dear Mr. and Mrs. Halligan,

this web site is amazing! i think about shane everyday. i will always remember going You're A Good Man Charlie Brown in musical theatre last year. shane was the best Charlie Brown! he made that class so much fun. i remember looking out to the crowd and seeing you guys in the back of the room. i will always miss shane. i will pray for him and for you and your family.

with love,
Meg D.
03-04-2007 09:16 hour
Mike, Rosemary, John, Michael, Alaina, and Nick ( Glenside, PA ) rose-jam <at> hotmail <dot> com
Donna, John, Kara, and Chris,

You guys are truly amazing!!! The message this website brings is loud and clear. You never know how a simple act of kindness can help someone who might be in trouble.

The website is certainly an act of kindness on your part. The fact that you are thinking of others and trying to prevent this from happening to someone else is an inspiration to us.

We love you guys and we admire your strength and courage!

Love, your cousin Rosie, Mike, John, Michael and Alaina
03-03-2007 19:07 hour
Megan, Michael, Paige & Grace ( Collegeville , USA ) mwmalizia <at> comcast <dot> net
Donna, John, Kara & Chris,
The website is beautiful. It's so nice to see that Shane touched so many peoples lives. We miss him so. You are an amazing family and such an inspiration in so many ways.
Love you,
03-03-2007 13:12 hour
Paul Belcher ( Blue Bell ) pbelch69 <at> yahoo <dot> com
dear Halligan family,

this site is amazing and it's awesome to see something to get his story out. i never knew Shane personally but i knew his cousin Matt and from what he told me and reading the description on this website it is evident that Shane was a young man who left an impression on anyone he met in life. keep up the good work with the website good bless
03-03-2007 12:37 hour
Joseph Leitner Leitnerj <at> duq <dot> edu
Dear Halligan family,
It is great to see a site dedicated to the memory of Shane, and its a great site. Even though I've been away from Springfield, I find that I miss Shane everyday. Everytime I look at my Godspell pictures or think about Boy Scout camping trips I get a little sad, but thats only until I look more closely at the pictures. Shane always seemed to have a smile and I take comfort in that smile. I think about when we were at Nationals for theater and all of us guys were sitting around making jokes. Someone told a joke that made Shane laugh so hard he had to go and throw up. And boy was his laugh great, made everyone else in the room laugh till it hurt. Then a few minutes later he decided that it would be hilarious if he were to wear all of his costumes all at once. I don't think I have ever laughed so hard. That was Shanes gift, making people laugh. I know from reading the other posts here that I'm not the first person to mention this, but its so true. I miss you buddy.JL
03-02-2007 16:28 hour
Linda E.
Donna, John, Kara and Chris,
You guys are truly an inspiration. The website is outstanding and so beautiful. I am honored to pay tribute to Shane in the best possible way...through Kindness. As a warm up, I have already started to practice!

The Acts of Kindness will certainly make this world a better place as Shane and the other angels smile upon us with great pride.

Always remember Shane is
Gone from our sight but never our thoughts
Gone from our touch but never our hearts

Love ya
03-02-2007 12:51 hour
Lin Lange ( Ambler , USA )
Dear Donna and John,

I attended Family Awareness night last night at Wissahickon High School with my son Jake. You spoke so beautifully and with such pride of your son Shane. It continues to amaze me your strength and conc
ern for others. Your sharing your memories and knowledge will go a long way in helping many people. This website and shaneskindness cards will no doubt go on to make this world a better place. I can't think of a greater tribute to Shane and your family! God Bless,
Lin Lange
03-02-2007 12:40 hour
Genna Malizia omg_its_genna <at> yahoo <dot> com
Oh I just remembered a funny story. When Grace, Kate, Paige, Shane, Nick and I were in the Poconos, we decided to go for a golf cart ride. Grace was driving( I think) and Paige wanted a cookie from Mommoms. So we stopped and Paige went to get her cookie, Shane went with her. As Paige got back into the golf cart we drove away. Shane saw us and started running after us so fast, he was laughing so hard which made it all the more funny.
Another time was when he made us to 'Chinese Fire Drills' when we changed spots in the golf cart. Or when he sung Gwen Stefani and a bunch of other songs.
So many memories.
03-02-2007 10:28 hour
Annmarie ( Wyndmoor , USA ) agreenberg <at> norfon <dot> org
Well, words cannot express the emotion I felt when I went on the site for the first time today. Your ability to reach out to others is truly an amazing act of kindness. What a wonderful way for the legacy of Shane's kind heart to live on. I am looking forward to passing on the kindness cards to my family and my students. I am so proud of you all. Donna, you will forever be an inspiration to me. Luv ya lots.
03-02-2007 08:16 hour
Joannie Mignogno ( Roslyh , Pa. ) JMignogno28 <at> aim <dot> com
Homepage: shaneskindness.com
Hi Donna John Kara Chris, we are so proud of you putting ths website out about Shane. It is touching a lot of peoples hearts!!Keep the faith and be strong. We Love you guys....and we are always here if you need a shoulder to lean on or just need anything.

03-02-2007 06:38 hour
Dianne dlmp44 <at> yahoo <dot> com
Donna,John,Kara and Chris,

I love you all so much!
My memories and love of Shane are with me always. I hope my grief gives me greater compassion, understanding and sensitviy for others.
Hopefully as we express the grief in our hearts, it will also help us to one day heal our hearts
03-01-2007 19:23 hour
Laura ( Blue Bell , USA ) laurakidwell23 <at> yahoo <dot> com
Hi John, Donna, Kara and Chris-

The website looks great. You should be very proud. Donna, once again you put your heart and soul into a cause you really believe in. You are amazing person!
I think this website is going to help a lot of people.
03-01-2007 18:35 hour
Steve Demarest
Dear Halligan family,

I'm glad to see this memorial site. It's weird when I find myself thinking of Shane these days. I almost feel like he's still alive, still with us all in some sense. It's strange how you never realize how many times you enjoyed being around a person until they're gone. Anyone, I hope everyone's doing okay, or at least okay as can be.

03-01-2007 18:31 hour
Matt Vincent ( Oreland , USA )
im not actually really sure how i met shane. probably through cub scouts while Mr. Halligan was pack master. but regardless, we used to play capture the flag together, a few of us were a team. when we lost shane, we felt like we lost a comrade. one could even compare it to losing a soldier in part of a patrol.
well, however it worked out, shane was also a part of our group who walked home from school everyday, that is until he got his car, and even then, he would give us rides sometimes.
i really have no idea where im going with this but i think however we knew shane, it was always in a positive way.

ill never forget him...
03-01-2007 17:42 hour
Anne Bradley lilbrad09 <at> aol <dot> com
im not going to lie to you all, me and shane werent close friends till this year, in history class..
where he made fun of the jokes that the teacher made..which were not funny..so shane made us laugh at them,
later after shane left us..we were annoyed by the jokes.. and it made the whole class upset when the teacher would make jokes..
my point is that shane may not have been friends with everyone in the school, but he sure did make an impression on everyones lives..
and we will never forget him, or the halligan family..
keeping you all in my prayers.
i will never for get you shane..
i know you are watchin down on me,
because im retaking that history class..
and i have passed all my tests so far...last half i falied them all..
and shane said "youll make it through with out any problems if you have to retake it." and here i am.. with a B+ in the class thanks to shane

Love, Anne Bradley
03-01-2007 15:45 hour
Scotty Moreland ( Flourtown , U.S. ) scottums5427 <at> hotmail <dot> com
Dear Halligan famly and friends of Shane,

Its nice to see the website up and running and all of the messages already. I really miss Shane and its sad not to see his face at school or the once and a while camping trip. My favorite event that happened was when he wore his flipflops, knee socks, boxers, no shirt, and a neckerchief to wake everyone up at camp, but that was Shane for you always trying to make someone laugh or smile. As maureen said it was hillarious when he said "fayce" which I had never really let him get off the hook from saying. I also remember when he tought me the knots before a board of review which I would have had an easy time passing if he had not helped me. Most of all though, I will never forget the smile, the laugh, and the warm feeling Shane gave me when he was around. I miss you so much bud, and I will never forget how much of great of a friend you were.

Love, Scotty
03-01-2007 14:20 hour
Maureen ( USA )
Hey Halligans and friends of Shanigan,

I'm glad to see everyone still holding together. I miss the Shanigan and all the funny stuff he would say and do. I read Chris's post, and the time he jumped off the chair to chase the quarter and slipped was truly one of the funniest things I've ever seen. That, and the time he sang Rich Girl and Aicha at the chorus picnic. And of course when he and Mrs. Halligan took me to see Godspell. It was great but Shane insisted that it wasn't good because it wasn't the same as the one he was in. Of course it wasn't. We miss you in the thespians, buddy, you really did carry the show every single time. "Do take another look at his most unusal fayce!"--Oliver Twist. We'll never know what went through your head that day, but the important thing is that we remember you and the life you lead, the jokes you cracked, and all the funny things you did. We miss you bud.
Love, Maureen
03-01-2007 14:17 hour
Genna Malizia ( Flourtown )
Aunt donna, Uncle John, Kara, and Chris.

The website looks amazing. I'm so proud of its progress, and your strength.

03-01-2007 13:48 hour
Christopher J. Capone ( Oreland , USA ) Chris <dot> capone <at> hotmail <dot> com
Dear Halligan Family,
I am so glad that Shane's website is finally up. I am so glad that this site will be around to remember him. I wish I would have known what was gonna happen on 12/12 when i had i convo with him merely one 1/2 hours before.

I'm glad for the time spent with Shane and knowing that he was one of the greatest World History know-it-alls. He certainly classed me in the history of WWII, BlackHawkDown and many others.

The story i bring today to the board is one that I've told so many people. It was the summer of 2005. We were all hanging out at my neighbors house. Shane, Lyle and myself were all sitting at a table when from across teh room came a quarter, landing a few feet behind Shane's chair. Needless to say, he jumped up so fast he didn't notice the CD case on teh ground and tripped, hittign the ground hard. Everyone asked if he was okay as he began to laugh. He was always able to make us laugh, even when he was the one who would do the falling
03-01-2007 13:37 hour
Teresa Mignogno ( roslyn pa 19001 , United States ) tt2862 <at> hotmail <dot> com
Homepage: shanekindness.com
Hi aunt Donna and uncile Jhon

I think what you did for shane was really sweet and also i think it was a really good idea too. Everyone is going on this website now. like alot of people.. i love you both sooooo very very much

from Teresa Mignogno.
03-01-2007 10:04 hour
Melanie ( Flourtown, PA ) melaniekonstant <at> hotmail <dot> com
I gave out my first kindness card about 2 weeks ago. We had a snow storm that left a sheet of ice on my driveway, which was so hard for me to shovel. I did as much as I could, but the plows had created a icy dam at the base of my driveway that I couldn't get through. Later that night, I heard my neighbor, Andy, coming by with his snow blower. Andy is a great guy, with a wonderful familoy and is always willing to give a helping hand. He plowed right through that thick, icy mess and I was able to get to work the next day. I enclosed one of my kindness cards in a Thank You note, along with a video gift card he can share with his family. He didn't have to help me, but out of kindness, he did. Hopefully the next time he is able to help a fellow neighbor, he'll think of Shane and pass along his card. Kara, his memory will always remain a happy one for me. I'll always remember his great laugh.
02-28-2007 18:03 hour
Mommom deetoto <at> comcast <dot> net
My Dear Donna, John, Chris & Kara

Shane's Acts of Kindness will be an extension of his love for all who have ever known him or will know of him.
I am so proud of all of you for the courage and consolation that you have given to your family and friends.
God Bless, With Love Mom & Joe
02-28-2007 17:16 hour
Matt McDowell ( home , USA ) mattymcd17 <at> yahoo <dot> com

that's a group dedicated to shane, well over 400 posts and about 2000 members
02-28-2007 17:05 hour
Aunt Dee Dee Deemcd3 <at> comcast <dot> net
Donna and John, I am so proud of the 2 of you for putting this web site together. I hope that it offers inspiration and love for so many people. Kara and Chris have been an inspiration with their strength and bond for each other and for the two of you. We all think of Shane each day, multiple times and hope that he is with those that he most admired, respected and served. I love the Acts of Kindness cards, it is the true definition of "paying it forward".
02-28-2007 09:35 hour
Kara Halligan
I think the website looks amazing! I am so excited to hear the stories of kindness, inspiration and hope that will come from Shane's memory.
02-28-2007 07:55 hour
Donna Halligan donna <at> shaneskindness <dot> com
Homepage: shaneskindness.com
Thank you for visiting Shane's memorial site. We will update the message board with news about general donations from his memorial fund. The greatest gift to us will be to know that kindness has been spread in Shane's memory. Thank You, Donna Halligan
02-26-2007 17:47 hour
Erin erin <at> jackoutofthebox <dot> com
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